Why is it, that I’ve NEVER had an ex that hasn’t stuck around after the relationship has ended?

Maybe it’s my exceptional cooch game and enigmatic intellect. Maybe it’s my fried chicken or my Big Momma attitude encompassed in this exquisite size 4 frame. Whatever it is, letting go has always been so hard for them to do. I’ve had an ex call me almost every night a few months into (what was then) his new relationship. He’d literally obsess over how much he missed me and would even compare what he loved about me to his new girl. She was never secure in his post-relationship “relations” with me. I was openly and completely uninterested in him past our breakup yet, she just couldn’t sleep knowing that if I’d given his advances the green light; she’d be single again in a heartbeat. Not one for prolonging imaginary beef with boring bitches, I cut all ties to him. Until this day, a year after their relationship has ended she still expresses her disdain for me to him. I’ve never met her, spoken to her on the phone or any of the typical run-ins that these types of situations encourage but, somehow she manages to keep a tab on my life and advancements. “Oh she started a business, so you wanna be with her again?” or “Why you want a better job? So you can trick on her?” So here’s to you (and all you other chicks jocking my shit on account of an ex of mine since you’re reading too)…


(I know, I’m an asshole. I laughed at myself just now!)

Exes are exes for a reason. Chances are we’re not going to successfully work things out and live happily ever after. This ain’t a movie. In real life, when I leave a relationship, the overachiever in me forces me to find and build with someone better. It’s time to learn a different lesson, so why would I repeat the class? If he’s the shit to you, and I’ve outgrown him, then it shows exactly how different we are as women at this moment in our lives. And that’s real talk. What impressed me at 22 doesn’t (and shouldn’t) excite me anymore. His gear is in, he’s driving a fly car and he seems passionate. That works for you and that’s cool. Ok but, does he own a passport? Where’s the last place he’s travelled to? How old is he? Why isn’t he comfortable in his career yet? Where was all that passion a few years ago? Huh? Don't comprehend? Why does shit like this even matter to me? Because essentially, I want someone who will match my fly. So, these are the questions I’m asking. But, hey, one woman’s trash is another woman’s treasure.

Ultimately, if you did it I done it before, you get it I had it, got mad at it and don’t want it no more, please respect me. Your biggest mistake would be to dog me out. You learn a lot about a man by his last relationship and especially who he dates after it. Is his new girl passive or more aggressive than his last? Does she make more money or less? Does she come from a broken home or a secure one? Of course he’s going to play the victim but, remember there are always two sides to every story.

Posted by Teneille


K. Michel said... @ July 3, 2009 at 10:55 AM

This was certainly an interesting read, Miss Teneille ...if nothing else.

Haha, it's funny. I hardly go anywhere, much less somewhere exotic ...but I guess I could if I wanted to. Yet, I never take that stuff into consideration when I decide to get with somebody.

I wouldn't want to get with someone who does the same things as myself. I have friends for that. But, to each his own... er, or her own.

You mentioned that you could tell a lot about a man by his transition between girlfriends. The more I think about it, the more sense it makes. But I don't know...

It seems that men and women have different standards when looking for somebody to share their lives with, anyway. You might say it's common sense but we really look at different things.

Take it easy, babe. I'll be stopping by every now and again to check on you girls. Don't let me outlap you...

Teneille said... @ July 3, 2009 at 1:45 PM

Im interested in a mate who has more in common with me than things he doesn't. Essentially our relationship is a friendship. I want to be able to have the same level of comfort with my mate that I would with any of my close friends.

100K said... @ July 4, 2009 at 2:50 AM

Exes are usually exes for a reason.

Ideally, I'd want a girl to talk to none of them. Guys, we know how to play on certain things and when we see a girl with the new dude (if we really liked her), there's always a part of you that will want her back.

i despise my exes lmao. something about me makes all my relationships go up in combustible flame when they end. if it's a girl im "talking to" and i realize it aint something i wanna pursue, i just delete FB, twitters and #s...no explanation...no closure...saved me a lotta BS

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