Interracial Relationships, dating, and marriages have long been a debated issue in America, from the time it was made illegal in the south, and still today when we are all free to date who we please. I think that African American women actually suffer the most when it comes to sitting down and listening to stereotypes about themselves and other females from white men, and more importantly black men who decide to date outside of the race.

Tyra Banks decided to tackle the issue on her show Here's The Video:

After watching that, I sat down with a male friend and we discussed the stereotypes that hinder both African American Males and Females.

Black girls who believe that all black men are no good.
Black men who cant appreciate or see the beauty in their female counterparts.
Reasons why black men date outside of the race, which disgustingly included:
-Because other races of women don't have the "Attitude problem" that black women are supposed to be known for.
-Because black women are too strict
-Because black women are not as pretty as women from other races (seriously?)
etc. etc. etc.

Reasons why black women date outside of their race which include:
-because black men ain't sh*t.
-because black men are lazy.
-because black men are hard to find who are equally as successful as we are.
-because black men are either in jail, dead, got a baby mama, or selling drugs.etc. etc. etc

Seriously? Its 2009....


I Am Who I Am, Deal With It said... @ March 26, 2009 at 10:23 PM

I never understood why black women got upset when a black man dated another race.
I thought we had the option to do that. Who gave the black women rights to choose for a man and vice versa for any other race who thinks in such a way.
If I decide to add cream in my coffee, thats my choice. No one else should judge me or say im selling out. Its just who grabbed my heart at that time.

I Am Who I Am, Deal With It said... @ March 26, 2009 at 10:26 PM

oh and yea it is 2009 but regardless no matter the time it ....GET OVER IT FOLKS.....

i swear people complain about everything that doesnt need a complaint...lol

Mz_Restricted said... @ March 26, 2009 at 10:31 PM

It really is disgusting how there's discrimination within our race.

100K said... @ March 27, 2009 at 12:37 PM

I'm a young black male and I think interracial dating is not that big of a deal.

Black women tend to restrict themselves too much in terms of their dating options; black men are much much much less restricted in terms of our dating options. Especially young ambitious young men like myself.

I think more black women should date outside the race.

Ya'll need to watch "Diary of A Tired Black Man". They touch on this well.

Jealousy is a weak emotion. Maybe that _____ girl does something for him that that particular black girl couldnt/wouldnt do. Different strokes for different folks

Teneille said... @ March 27, 2009 at 2:28 PM

I really find it hard to believe people are still this ignorant about interracial dating. And as a black woman I'm proud to say I just love men. I actually like em brown, yellow, puerto rican and haitian. When I was a little girl my nickname was literally "Men". Maybe this is just another one of those issues that can be blamed on environment. My stepmom is white so I guess since I've always been exposed to healthy interracial couples I just never saw the big deal.

$port said... @ March 27, 2009 at 7:21 PM

it is what it is. i'm definitely attracted to all shades of women. the women of the middle east and and the latinas, especially. we're all free to go about dating who we want, no matter what color or creed.

however i will NEVER EVER forsake my sistas. it's waaaaay too many sexy, strong, driven black women to ever give up on them. I've always planned on doing it how my parents did it. imo, there's nothing better than a real, strong black love. plus, Mama $port always told me:

'you came from a queen, so you better find one.'

regarding the excuses that some of these black women make, it's downright disheartening. every black man ain't selling dope or bad news. they need to consider when and where they're looking for these dudes. you can't expect to find love and marriage in the middle of the dance floor in the club. it also bothers me personally because I consider myself one of the good ones and to hear a woman the same color as me devalue me for whatever reason...no.

in defense of the women: fellas if you are using any one of those excuses as a reason to date outside your race, you're a spineless sucka, flat the fuck out. if you can't take a little bit of sass, what kind of man are you??

that's genuine bitch shit.

Kwan Lee said... @ March 27, 2009 at 8:41 PM

i dont see a problem with interracial dating. some people have their "reasons" and all, but if i like a girl i like her no matter what color she is....

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